Tuesday, September 27, 2016

those moments you laugh about later....sometimes way later.

i'll set the scene.  come with me, if you will...it's a hot weekend mid to late summer, because goodness knows i can't remember~ weren't they all hot??  early into a glorious Saturday evening. that time of day when the sun blazes hot into our back sun room.  the supper dishes have been cleared, the juicy burgers have been grilled and enjoyed.  the mess remains.  the clean-up begins.  i, the chef, am hot.  maybe because i've been slicing, washing, setting, grilling.  lovingly preparing a weekend meal for my crew and a guest.  i have this warm feeling we moms sometimes get when a nice meal has been created and the time around the table has been refreshing and light and nourishing.  i'm puttering in the kitchen, when i start to notice the temperature in my workspace feels warmer than it should.  the a/c has been on all day and i find myself wondering why i still feel so uncomfortable....i wander over to the register and put my bare foot on top for a moment.  the air is blowing out like usual, but oddly, it doesn't feel cold.  it feels kind of neutral.  strange...
time to summon my dear husband.  "Jeff, i just put my foot on the register and it doesn't feel cold at all."  he checks, he agrees.  down to the basement he goes and i can only imagine the annoyance of being the one to be called on each time something breaks down.  after an inside inspection, he went out the front door to check the actual a/c box at the side of our house.  i knew whatever he saw couldn't have been good when he returned and called our youngest by name into the bedroom.  see, my husband isn't a brand new parent.  this isn't his first "unsolved mystery" involving our precious children.  by now, he knows the most tried and true methods to get kids to speak, and most importantly~ to elicit the truth.  AJ is the easiest to pull details from, especially when his brother isn't standing right there beside him.  and this is the moment Jeff learned the details of the boy's activities prior to supper.  but hey, a thousand words can't do justice to the picture Jeff had the presence of mind to snap when he first laid eyes on the "wood chopping" event Hudson and AJ had participated in a few hours prior....

you're dying to see what he saw, right??  
isn't it lovely?? :)  


by now, Hudson was brought into the line of questioning, and yes, these two darlings had in fact enjoyed a good time with some wood literally hitting the a/c fan as they decided to insert tiny sticks, and then progressively larger, and then progressively thicker sticks in through the slats of the metal grill to be chopped in fine little pieces by the blades of the spinning fan.  how clever!  how fun!  how intensely irritating!  contained within the unit were all the little tiny pieces, as well as the much larger one which had jammed the fan to a complete halt.  that ended the "wood chopping" fun, and so they walked away.  no need to mention this to anyone, of course...sigh....
Jeff cleaned out the wood chips, freed the lodged stick and tried to start up the a/c again.  no deal.  it was in shock, overheated, cooked.  he explained to me, in a surprisingly patient tone (considering i was ready to blow) that the unit was really hot to touch and might have an automatic shut off mechanism and perhaps just needed to cool down for a bit.
being very afraid of the very real possibility that we'd be calling in a serviceman on a weekend (a ridiculously crazy hot weekend), to diagnose and install a brand new shiny unit for several thousand dollars, which is never money just laying around under our mattress or spilling from our drawers or wallets or anywhere, i tried to calm my anger at the sheer madness of the situation.  i hated the thought of Jeff's hard earned wages going to this.  i really felt sooooo frustrated.  i looked at my beautiful boys, and the words of my amazing gym instructor came to mind before i uttered a word..."inhale to prepare"....after a deep inhale breath i very consciously and firmly spoke these words.  "get your pj's on.  it's time for bed.  now."  by now it was 7:45 pm.  this was early for them considering it was a weekend.  i didn't care.  i knew it was smarter than having them up to see my fury.  Hudson knew i meant business.  AJ had one last request, "can't we have a snack??"  ummm....a snack.....noooo....considering our blissful late supper remnants still remained in the uncleaned kitchen, and i knew they were not possibly hungry, i declined his request and suggested they move quickly.  they tucked into bed early (which really was more of a "lay-in-your-briefs-on-top-of-the-bottom-sheet" than a tuck-in) in the very warm bedroom, Hudson on his top-bunk even....we told them to lay there hot and consider their actions carefully.  we talked about thinking over their impulsive ideas before acting, and encouraged them to consider how this had impacted the rest of the sweaty family members.  they were solemn.  it was necessary and good.

i returned to the kitchen, and after another attempt or two, finally the a/c came back to it's glorious life after a half hour or so of cool down.  i was overjoyed.  Jeff was relieved.  we were so thankful to be spared the hassle and expense that we could have faced, this time at least.....
we woke the next day and thankfully our bodies had cooled down and our hearts had warmed up to the two awesome boys whose lives had been spared :).  we love them still.  and it's a good thing they are cute, because with 100% certainty we know this won't be our last adventure with these characters.  it's "a day at a time" around here, that's my working motto!  
already this is a story we can laugh about, so that's good too i'd say!   

Tuesday, September 20, 2016

wonderland

Canada's Wonderland!


AJ ready for his first roller coaster.  he took it like a champ! proved that day his stomach is not a limiting factor~ only mine is.  my super strong equilibrium has left my body, forever, i suspect...sadly, i discovered i'm not the crazy amusement park person i once was.  running from coaster to coaster and loving every second, unaware of my stomach and its contents appears to be a thing of the past.  fear is not my limitation~ i want to try the latest and greatest rides!  if only my stomach agreed....so, next summer when we go i will plan to hit the biggest rides first.  even if i just get in one for the day.  


still so fun to see my kids and my crazy husband soaking up the adventure...


yep, Jeff, Adam and Hudson won the award for "most fearless".  crazy guys who tried it all!!!


sunshine and a place to rest.  Hannah grabbed the opportunity.




great way to end the summer!

Tuesday, September 13, 2016

cool pics

just a couple cool pics for today.  summer pics.  the summer pace of July and August is already starting to feel like a distant memory.  we wake earlier these days, the kids catch the school bus and lunches are packed, homework planners are signed each day and after school sports practices have begun....

Hudson gets photo credits for capturing Layla's hair flip.  nicely done!


Adam made an awesome screenshot from a video on this particular day in Watford at the bike jumps, on his 15th birthday. who knew that was an option?!  not me!  good thing for my tech savvy kids.  


oh, and then there's this "first day of school" photo for the fall of 2016.  our first one with just five kids on the front step. sigh....adjusting, but certainly strange.  


grade 8, grade 12, grade 6, grade 10 and grade 4!
it's amazing how they grow when you feed them...no longer the little squirts they used to be.  makes the first morning pic a lot easier though!  
slay it this year, my darlings!  be winsome, gracious people who encourage others and shine right where you're at!  xo

Tuesday, September 6, 2016

hanging on to summer

well, today is an absolute scorcher.  so summer pics seem most fitting still, here in early September.  even as i sip my first pumpkin spiced latte of the season!!!  because, well, cooler days are coming, that is certain, but who can even handle waiting for this delightful flavour to be paired with typical autumn temps.  not me.
anyway, on this first day of school, i'm reflecting on sweet times spent this summer together with my kids, and their friends.  we are blessed a gazillion times over....


pool time was awesome this summer as it really was so super hot on so many days...


the theatre...with candy.  and these three nuts to my left.  does it get any better? there was something explained to me about holding up the pinkie finger.  i don't remember what it was.  but if Hudson does it, then AJ does too.  that's how he rolls.  you're thinking "that must be challenging from time to time" and yes, you'd be right to think that...it is.  

   
an afternoon game of "shark".  watching for her to appear, spotting her, and then waiting for the inevitable leg grab and drag into the water or full tube tip over....over and over again...




fun times!  it went sooo very fast though!!

Tuesday, August 30, 2016

her room is tidy

that should be cause for celebration, right?  cuz it's what i thought i'd like.....but maybe i really don't.  a tidy room for this girl means she isn't actually here. don't get me wrong, tidy with her here would be wonderful~ i'd really enjoy that combination~ but that isn't the usual reality.  so tidy only means one thing....she's gone.  as in moved out and in to the post-secondary world that she was so excited to experience and embrace. 


 i'm okay, really.  no real tears shed even.  just some minor welling up in my eye sockets on about five occasions yesterday.  that's it.  i promise.  emotions seem to be right there, sitting just under the surface and ready to leak out at a vulnerable moment.  but for now, i'm mostly just so happy for her.  being there on campus during move-in day was so fun (including a loud and boisterous "get-out-of-the-car-please" chant by her van window, as we were literally surrounded by students and our trunk raided of her belongings while she was escorted to her room).  the energy and vibe was super contagious.  the many students, both first year and upper year students were incredibly welcoming and warm, and i could completely understand her draw to this place.

 so, we settled her into her residence and the cozy space she can call her own for the next eight months.  we took care of a few more loose ends before touring campus a bit more and sharing lunch together.  it was a really fun time for us as parents to share with her.  felt like a gift.  so thankful our own parents could help with our other younger cherubs (not literally, at all, or even a little) so we could be totally present there with her.




and in many ways already there is evidence of God going before her and setting certain things and people in place to allow her to succeed, both academically and spiritually.  now that makes my eyes glaze over.  not a coincidence, not good luck, just God's clear hand of care and love on her life.  like always.
  

 so it becomes her journey now, her accelerated path to becoming an adult version of herself, further discovering what she loves and where she's gifted and what she is passionate about and committed to.  no doubt there will be ups and downs, highs and lows.  that's where the refining happens.  


so while i washed her bedding and remade her bed today in her much tidier room, i refused to let myself linger too long in the nostalgic "my curly haired first born is all grown up" mode...no point in getting stuck there.  for now, feeling at peace and grateful for the chance to cheer her on from the sidelines as this part of her journey unfolds.  my heart is full!

Monday, August 22, 2016

pay day

this summer was so great for Adam!  he had his first real job that involved hard work, commitment, endurance and good old fashioned "stick-to-it-ness".  Adam hit the corn fields head on.  corn detasseling row after row after row.  and just a few more rows on top of that!  for three weeks (with only two days off) he woke early to be at the bus pickup location at 6:45, with his prepared lunch cooler containing his many calories and fluids, and he slugged it out. crazy enough, his first day happened to be the day a heat warning was issued in our area, and for the duration of the corn season there were many more brutally hot days to follow.  i was so impressed with his attitude.  i don't brag a lot here about my kids, and i think i'm pretty realistic in life about their strengths and weaknesses, but this did kind of blow me away.  i really do want to look back on this summer, and i want him to be able to do the same...when i picked him up each day he was pretty quiet, kind of tired, but never really complaining or moaning about the job~ just answering my questions and happy to be in the a/c of the vehicle, i think.  i'm certain i complained more for him than he did for himself.  he'd tell me how many acres of corn the crew covered, how many kids quit or were fired that day, and that was about it.  he'd often get home and swim in the pool, and then be refreshed to go right back out to bike with friends or go here or there, never tucking in early, never wanting to miss anything fun.  

all the while, he had a plan.  he knew if he had perfect attendance there was an extra dollar per hour added to his wage.  he also knew he'd likely finish with enough to save a nice chunk as well as buy a new mountain bike.  so, his down time also allowed him to sit at the computer and research the brand and model of mountain bike he'd eventually settle on.  he logged 114 hours total, and he got the bonus as well.  that's a lot of corn rows...

about ten days after the job was finished his pay cheque arrived in the mail.  talk about delayed gratification~ another valuable life lesson!  that was about as excited as i'd seen him so far.  Adam's "excited" look is about as toned down and mellow as you can ever get.  a bit like Jeff in that way too.  he feels it kinda deep down! :)  so, we made a fun trip to the bank, and i teased him that we had better leave discreetly because of the giant wad of cash he held in a brown envelope in his pocket. i acted as his security, and we made a dash to the car...not actually though... 


well, today he and his dad picked up his brand new Trek 2017 matte black mountain bike (which, coincidentally, he helped assemble during his first day working at the local bike shop).  he's pretty happy with it, and we are happy for him!  more than that, i love what this summer has accomplished.  it has reinforced our family motto of "do hard things", as well as the importance of honouring commitments with a strong work ethic~ right through to completion.  nothing like enjoying the results in the end!


when asked if he plans to hit next year's corn season, it's a pretty quick "no" with a shake of his head.  can't say i blame him.  once is probably enough.  but so thankful it happened this summer and proud of him too.  

Tuesday, August 16, 2016

beachin' it

it really is hard to beat the beach at dusk.  waves rolling in only makes it even better.  so refreshing and so pretty.  so fun and so free.  so summer.....



that's Hudson's dark body being tossed around in the picture below. you can really only see his head.



AJ's little brown butt was super sandy and plastered with pebbles when we returned home.  clear evidence of fun had along the shore.  the best kind of fun.


walking the pier...


i've been thinking about where we live, and how blessed we are to live in a city with a beautiful shoreline, river and waterfront activities all summer long.  sometimes it's easy to take that for granted until you notice it from the vantage point of a tourist.  they seem so impressed and in awe with the beauty of it as they snap their pictures and soak it in. we've been trying to soak it up the same way this summer. the sunsets have been breathtaking.


enjoy what's left of this amazing summer!!